Your Problem is Not ‘Them.’ ‘They’ Aren’t Ruining Your Life.

It has been so long since I saw Boyz N the Hood, that I can barely remember anything about the movie other than generally liking it. Someone put this clip up, I rewatched it and thought it was interesting, especially with all the riots going on:

The whole idea in the clip is that there is a ‘they’ out there trying to sabotage the black community. Why are there drugs in black communities? Why are there liquor stores? Why are there gun stores? Why are there black Americans killing each other? Because ‘they’ want that to happen.

That’s actually a comforting thought for people that aren’t doing very well. “It’s not me, it’s that ‘they’ are trying to keep me down.” ‘They’ could be white people, black people, the police, men, women, Republicans, Democrats, corporations, straight people, gays, the Zionists, the Rockefellers — you name it. It’s comforting for some people because it takes the onus off of you for your failures. It’s “How could anyone expect me to succeed with ‘them’ working against me?”

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Except the truth is that there isn’t some kind of master plan to keep you down. Instead, you’re in a mostly indifferent world full of mostly indifferent people who aren’t looking to help you or hurt you unless it impacts them personally, aren’t coming to save you, and aren’t thinking about you at all most of the time.

‘They’ aren’t going to make you a success or a failure, a winner or a loser — you will and that’s even scarier because if you fail at life, you have to live with the fact that it’s your own fault. That’s a frightening, horrible thing to live with, so many of us need a ‘them’ to avoid that crushing truth.

What your life is worth, whether it will mean anything when it’s over or whether you’ll even have a good life depends on you and your choices. Treat it like that and blame yourself when it doesn’t turn out the way you think it should. Maybe you’ll hit the lottery, be born into a rich family, or maybe you’ll be that exception whose life is ruined by pure bad luck, but there aren’t a lot of those people.

The vast majority of people in the world live the sort of life they deserve over the long haul given the choices they made regardless of what schemes and plans ‘they’ supposedly have for the world. Stop worrying about how ‘they’ are going to impact your life and get laser-focused on how YOU can make a big impact on your life. Spend a year doing that and you will be shocked at how much better your life will be.

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John Hawkins created in 2001; built it up to a top 10,000 in the world website; created a corporation with more than 20 employees to support it; created a 3.5 million person Facebook page; became one of the most popular conservative columnists in America; was published everywhere from National Review to Human Events, to Townhall, to PJ Media, to the Daily Wire, to The Hill; wrote a book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know that was at one point top 50 in the self-help section on Amazon; did hundreds of hours as a guest on radio shows, raised $611,000 in a GoFundMe for Brett Kavanaugh’s family and has been talked about everywhere from The New York Times to Buzzfeed, to the Washington Post, to Yahoo News, to the Rush Limbaugh Show, to USA Today. After seeing the unjust way that Brett Kavanaugh was treated during his hearings and how a lifetime worth of good work was put at risk by unprovable allegations, John Hawkins decided to create a men’s website. Welcome to Brass Pills!


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