You Can’t Force Someone to Like You

At one time or another in his life, almost every guy, myself included, has liked a woman that didn’t like him back. It’s especially difficult when you know the woman, get along well with her, are very attracted to her and she just doesn’t feel that way about you. When you’re young, you wonder if there’s some secret you can learn that will turn it around, but the truth is that you can’t force someone to like you. Here’s part of a post from the Red Pill forum at Reddit on that subject:

A ton of us start out thinking that getting laid is just a matter of being good at seduction. “If I say the right thing, act the right way, make her like me – she’ll let me eat her tuna taco.” Then we go out there and try our absolute hardest to win over every girl… but we find no matter what we do, some girls still aren’t into us.

The stubborn/dopey guys double down even harder, wasting years and years learning more and more pickup lines, “conversation routines”, “negs”, “push/pull techniques”, etc, in an effort to try and win over 100% of girls (which is impossible). The smart guys realise getting laid is just a numbers game – some girls will like you, some won’t, so the only way to get laid a lot (and with minimal effort/drama) is to just hit on a lot of girls.

It’s like sales. You’re not trying to win over every person; you’re just looking for one buyer. Getting laid/retaining girls is basically you saying: “Here’s what I have to offer. Do you like what I’m offering? If you do, we’ll get together. If not, no worries.”

You can’t MAKE someone want what you’re offering. They either want it or they don’t.

Like old school pick-up guru David DeAngelo used to say, “Attraction is not a choice.” If a woman isn’t into you, there’s nothing you can do about it 99% of the time. So, do you keep trying to sell snow cone makers in Antarctica or do you go to Arizona, where they’re in high demand? Don’t waste your time trying to convince a woman that has already made her mind up that you’re not what she needs, find a woman that at least seems open to believing that you are what she needs and then things will start to happen.

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John Hawkins created in 2001; built it up to a top 10,000 in the world website; created a corporation with more than 20 employees to support it; created a 3.5 million person Facebook page; became one of the most popular conservative columnists in America; was published everywhere from National Review to Human Events, to Townhall, to PJ Media, to the Daily Wire, to The Hill; wrote a book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know that was at one point top 50 in the self-help section on Amazon; did hundreds of hours as a guest on radio shows, raised $611,000 in a GoFundMe for Brett Kavanaugh’s family and has been talked about everywhere from The New York Times to Buzzfeed, to the Washington Post, to Yahoo News, to the Rush Limbaugh Show, to USA Today. After seeing the unjust way that Brett Kavanaugh was treated during his hearings and how a lifetime worth of good work was put at risk by unprovable allegations, John Hawkins decided to create a men’s website. Welcome to Brass Pills!


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