Someone asked this question and I thought it was interesting enough to answer:
Why is there such a dissonance between what the women on this sub say and what the men on this sub have experienced?
If a guy shares his story about being rejected for being ugly, there is always a group of women that deny that women care about ugliness. Women will state that they are attracted to things like intelligence, but I have never seen a woman be attracted to intelligence. It seems that there is a huge gap between what men experience and what women say.
Men have mostly made peace with the fact that we’re shallow. We put so much emphasis on beauty that we really don’t have a choice. So, although we men do lie to ourselves about all sorts of things great and small, most of us on some level acknowledge that we’re shallow.