Yesterday, I put out the “Best Quotes From Warren Farrell’s ‘Why Men Are The Way They Are.’” In it, was this quotation,
Women are still taught to be sexually cautious until two, three, or all four conditions — attraction, respect, emotions, and intellect — are met. Many women add fifth and sixth conditions: singleness and status/success. And many add a seventh, eighth, and ninth: the man must ask her out, he must pay, and he must risk rejection by initiating the first kiss, being the first to hold hands, and so on. (If he doesn’t risk kissing her, she is likely not to kiss him.) Men are socialized to want sex as long as only one condition is fulfilled — physical attraction.
Of course, that book came out in 1988. Since then, women have only piled on to the list of things they ideally want out of a man. In fact, we now have women writing lists like, “Stay Single Until You Meet A Guy Who Does These 70 Things.” In case you are wondering, it’s just a straight-up list of apparent “must-haves” for men like,
1. Asks you on a real date and follows through.