As a general rule, the dating world today is slanted against men in almost every way and if there’s a “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” situation, men are usually the ones facing it. However, there is one situation in particular where women are the ones in the tough spot. A woman asks:
How can women f*ck you within 3 dates or on the first date even and also get a relationship/avoid getting pumped and dumped?
So y’all don’t want sluts. But you also want women to f*ck you in three dates or less. So how do we balance this? How do we fuck our dates in that timeline and also get a man? Help me understand how this would work in your ideal world. Do we fuck every single date? How do we pick which men to fuck? How do we get long-lasting relationships? How much vetting is allowed?
As I noted in my book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know, even a well-meaning guy usually has no idea whether he wants to be in a long-term relationship after 3 dates. If you’re a man, you can very easily realize that what you thought was a connection early on, was just the sexual charge in the air mixed with a woman on her best behavior. Then after you have sex and scales fall away from your eyes, suddenly you can see that it’s not going to work out. This happens — and we’re talking about a guy who means well.
As to the guys that don’t mean well, even if they don’t like a woman, they can probably hang in there, nod along and try to be charming for three dates in an attempt to be laid.