This is from a faintly ridiculous article on “sleep divorce” that still had some interesting information in it:
According to the National Sleep Foundation, 12 percent of married couples sleep in separate beds. A mattress company’s recent survey of 3,000 people found that 31 percent of married Americans wished they could “file for a sleep divorce.” For those who can afford to live that dream, dual master bedrooms are on the rise: In 2017, Architectural Digest called separate sleeping arrangements “the hottest new amenity in luxury homes.”
The myth that sleeping apart implies “a loveless or sexless union,” Troxel says—as well as its inverse, that “sleeping together means you have a successful relationship”—damages both things a couple is likely trying to preserve: their relationship and their sleep. “Where I see this go awry is I see couples feel this weight of society telling them what they should or shouldn’t be doing, but then out of desperation they make a choice that could be harmful to their relationship.”
I totally get this because I HATE sleeping with a woman in my bed. Know why? Because I only want to use my bed for sex or sleep and if we’re not having sex, then having another person in the bed makes it harder to sleep. For one thing, in my experience, this is UNIVERSALLY how women see the bed.