Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it.
I (24f) tried to prove a point to my fiancé (28m) and ended up losing his trust. pic.twitter.com/m22W4sjECy
— relationships.txt (@redditships) January 26, 2019
So, I can totally understand her not liking the fact that he calls another woman his “work bae” and she did the right thing by discussing it with him. It’s also easy to understand why he played it off. A “work bae” is by definition a platonic relationship. To him, he didn’t mean anything by it; so why is she making a big deal about it?” What was the right thing to do from here? Probably to bring it up again, let him know how much it bothered her and ask him to at least not use the phrase again.
Instead, she decided to give him a taste of his own medicine and took it way too far to begin with. She didn’t pick an actual “friend” at work; she picked a guy that wanted her. She flirted with him; she talked to him regularly outside of work; she had the guy picking her up at 10:30 at night and was thinking about having sex with him.
In other words, her trusting fiance doesn’t trust her any more because she intended to have sex with another guy and she didn’t make an effort to hide it from him. Now, he’s smelling the whore on her and his instincts are probably telling him to run. He should listen to them because at this point, this issue is now there in the background.
Sure, she can bend over backwards to win back his trust over time by letting him look at her cell phone, email, etc. and telling him where she is every moment of the day, but we have an advantage that he doesn’t. We know that she got so worked up over him having a “work bae” that she was ready to cheat on him, which doesn’t say anything good about her. Relationships are full of ups and downs and if that’s all it takes for her to be ready to stray, she’s not someone you can trust.