She Told Her Boyfriend That She Loved Him and He Broke Up With Her. What Happened?

For a number of reasons, dropping that first ‘I love you” in a relationship can be a little risky. This is one of them:

I (23F) told my boyfriend I loved him (24M) and he broke up with me

I (23F) told my boyfriend (24M) that I loved him this past weekend for the first time, and he broke up with me. For full context, we’ve been dating since April, and “official” since May, so about three months. We’ve spent every weekend together since that time. I really didn’t think it was too early, and I truly felt it, but I also had prepared myself for him to say he wasn’t ready yet. Everything he’s shown me says that he has strong feelings for me, if not love, so I thought that there was a good chance it would be reciprocated. We’re talking grand gestures, small everyday things, meaningful sex, emotional support, etc. Instead, he kind of freaked out. He got quiet, and what he tried to say didn’t really make sense. He told me “i don’t think you mean that.” I left and said we should take some time to think. Two days later, we met up again and he broke up with me after we spent an hour talking about how we can improve the relationship (things like opening up more). I was so thrown off because I thought we had agreed on things to work on, but then it just spiraled downwards. He said some really horrible things that he’d never brought up before, despite being a really open communicator. I think he just wanted the conversation to end. We ended on a really bad note, but I want to reach out. He never even said we’re broken up or over- he couldn’t bring himself to do it

Why did he do that? There could conceivably be a lot of reasons, but my first guess would be that he was much more unhappy in the relationship than he let on and had already been thinking about checking out. That’s because it seems awfully strange that she went from talking about all these signs he was in love to having an hour-long conversation about how they could improve the relationship. Early on, when love is creating the good chemicals in your brain, you don’t feel like you need to work on anything because how wonderful the girl seems big, bright, and hard to miss while the flaws seem minor and in the background.

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Of course, there could also be other things at play. He might think she’s okay to kill time with, but not someone he wants to be with long term. He could think he’s not ready to get into something long-term at 24. He might be a player or someone with emotional issues who isn’t interested in a long-term relationship period.

Whatever the reason is, the best thing to do is let it go. Chasing after a person that rejected you is just a recipe for pain. That goes double for someone who broke it off because you told them you loved them. Whatever issue he has, it’s not something she can work out for him.

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John Hawkins created Rightwingnews.com in 2001; built it up to a top 10,000 in the world website; created a corporation with more than 20 employees to support it; created a 3.5 million person Facebook page; became one of the most popular conservative columnists in America; was published everywhere from National Review to Human Events, to Townhall, to PJ Media, to the Daily Wire, to The Hill; wrote a book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know that was at one point top 50 in the self-help section on Amazon; did hundreds of hours as a guest on radio shows, raised $611,000 in a GoFundMe for Brett Kavanaugh’s family and has been talked about everywhere from The New York Times to Buzzfeed, to the Washington Post, to Yahoo News, to the Rush Limbaugh Show, to USA Today. After seeing the unjust way that Brett Kavanaugh was treated during his hearings and how a lifetime worth of good work was put at risk by unprovable allegations, John Hawkins decided to create a men’s website. Welcome to Brass Pills!

 

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