She Had a Threesome With Her Boyfriend & Woke Up to Them Having Sex Together. Should She Dump Him?

I’ve never had a threesome, not because there weren’t women that were willing, but because the logistics never worked out. One would be out of town and the other would be in town, they’d both be around, but one would suddenly have a boyfriend, etc, etc. To be honest, I wanted to have a threesome not so much because the idea excited me, but because I wanted to have the experience once in my life. In retrospect, I am really glad I never had a threesome with someone I cared about because it’s a messy business. For example, take this situation:

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) and I decided to have a threesome with another girl (24F) after it was over and went to sleep I woke up 5 hours later and saw my boyfriend having sex with her, he says he still saw it as part of the threesome so it doesn’t count as cheating. I don’t know what to think

Hello everyone so me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years and has mostly been a pretty amazing relationship. We both have high sex drives and had an extremely adventures sex life and the idea of bringing someone else in to spice things up has been something we have discussed for a long time but never done until this happened. My boyfriend met this girl I will call Nina here at work and he knew she liked him because she tried it on with him (she didn’t know he was dating me). He turned her down but it was pretty clear she was into him. To be clear we are not in an open relationship of any kind. My boyfriend mentioned this to me and we discussed and agreed asking her to join us in the bedroom. I am bisexual but have never done anything with another woman before so I was very keen to explore that. Anyways Nina agreed and she came over two nights ago and it was a great night we all did stuff with each-other. We all had a lot to drink so we told Nina she could stay the night so me and my boyfriend went to bed. I woke up about 5am the next morning and saw that my boyfriend wasn’t next to me and then I heard sounds in the next room, I went and walked in on Nina blowing my boyfriend. I screamed at Nina and told her to get the fuck out which she quickly did and my boyfriend was annoyed at me and said “what’s the big deal?” I blew up at him “what’s the big deal you just fucking cheated on me!” he told me that we agreed he could do things with Nina during for the threesome. we argued for a long time in which he admitted that they had had sex as well. To me the threesome was over and no longer had my permission to do anything with any other girls but he is adamant that it was still part of it and doesn’t really see what my problem is at all. I just don’t know what to do right now. I want outside opinions (I am too embarrassed to ask friends and family) is this cheating? I really don’t know anymore.

Most of the people I know that had threesomes had it end badly with hurt feelings, a break-up, or some other cautionary tale. Know why? Because people are not robots. They may know that LOGICALLY they shouldn’t behave or feel some way, but they do anyway. In this case, they didn’t bother with any rules, and once her boyfriend had sex with another girl and he knew she was willing and in the other room, she probably looked pretty good after being with the same woman for two years. In the other woman’s case, she worked with him and had enough of a crush that she was willing to have a threesome to be with him. It was an explosive situation and *** kaboom ***.

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Did he cheat on her? Did he not? We could argue that all day, but once you start trying to create your own set of rules that run counter to human nature and feelings, it’s probably going to end badly. If you want to experiment with open relationships, threesomes, swinging and all these other unconventional relationships, that’s your choice, but remember that most of them don’t end well. If you’re looking at the person beside you and thinking, “I’d like to have them in my life 5 years or 10 years down the road,” you probably don’t want to go in that direction.

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John Hawkins created Rightwingnews.com in 2001; built it up to a top 10,000 in the world website; created a corporation with more than 20 employees to support it; created a 3.5 million person Facebook page; became one of the most popular conservative columnists in America; was published everywhere from National Review to Human Events, to Townhall, to PJ Media, to the Daily Wire, to The Hill; wrote a book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know that was at one point top 50 in the self-help section on Amazon; did hundreds of hours as a guest on radio shows, raised $611,000 in a GoFundMe for Brett Kavanaugh’s family and has been talked about everywhere from The New York Times to Buzzfeed, to the Washington Post, to Yahoo News, to the Rush Limbaugh Show, to USA Today. After seeing the unjust way that Brett Kavanaugh was treated during his hearings and how a lifetime worth of good work was put at risk by unprovable allegations, John Hawkins decided to create a men’s website. Welcome to Brass Pills!

 

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