Is The Closest You Can Get To Being Loved as a Man Being Cared About Because You’re Useful?

I’ve seen this collection of tweets from IM appear in several places over the last few days and it seemed like it was worth talking about.

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This reminds a lot of Chris Rock’s famous comment:

Image may contain: 4 people, meme, text that says 'Women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something.'

This is also a fairly standard piece of Red Pill doctrine. For example, have you ever heard this quote?

The Godfather of the Red Pill, Rollo Tomassi, has also discussed it. In fact, it’s the “Iron Rule of Tomassi #6.”

Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.

In its simplicity this speaks volumes about about the condition of Men. It accurately expresses a pervasive nihilism that Men must either confront and accept, or be driven insane in denial for the rest of their lives when they fail to come to terms with the disillusionment.

If you want to go beyond that, you can go all the way back to Warren Farrell’s landmark book from 1986, Why Men Are the Way They Are. It points to this issue in a roundabout way as well:

In another socioeconomic class, men who drop out of officer training also find the women who love them dropping out of their lives. I live near Camp Pendleton, one of the largest military bases in the United States, just north of San Diego. One man after another has told me that there is “no way personality is as important to a lady as my rank.” — P.133

Once a man has raised his consciousness, he slowly understands that Alan Alda is loved not because he’s sensitive, but because he’s successful and sensitive. — P.134

It’s no secret that most men don’t care very much about a woman’s career. Most men are indifferent to whether a woman is a manager at a bank or whether she cleans the floors. Is the reverse true? Not at all. Status tends to matter a great deal to a woman and typically, a woman is not interested in a man that isn’t at least on her level. In other words, a woman that’s an assistant manager at that same bank might consider dating the manger or maybe another assistant manager, but the janitor would be a non-starter.

Similarly, a man that loses his status has a good chance of losing his woman as well if she has an opportunity to get another man of similar status. In other words, if you’re a 65-year-old doctor and you retire, your 60-year-old wife may go ahead and hang in there because she can no longer compete for high-value men in the sexual marketplace. On the other hand, if you’re a 35-year-old doctor who decides to quit and become a handyman, there’s a high likelihood your still very attractive 30-year-old wife is going to move on to greener pastures.

Is this every woman? Nope. Your grandmother, your mother, your sister, and your kids will often love you unconditionally, but a woman you marry? It’s unlikely. I can still remember a conversation I had with a woman I know. She talked about a friend of hers whose husband had lost his job, gotten depressed, and spent a few months depressed on the couch, not really looking for a new one. She was definitely unimpressed and I asked what she’d do if her husband did that. She immediately replied that she’d divorce him. They had multiple kids and seemed happy, but if he lost that mojo, he’d lose her, too. This is nothing new. Look at Donald Trump, Elon Musk, Chris Rock, anyone that’s extremely successful. Do you think any of them could get the same wife if they were a manager at a bowling alley? No chance. What they’ve produced in their life is part of who they are as far as the women that are with them are concerned.

What that means is that if you’re a man who just wants to be loved by a woman for who you are, chances are that’s never going to happen. You can be loyal, kind, funny, noble, and a genuinely good guy, but stop producing and you’ll find out that none of it matters very much. This a grim truth and it can be a little depressing, but if you’re a man, there is often a big price for forgetting this fundamental truth.

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John Hawkins created in 2001; built it up to a top 10,000 in the world website; created a corporation with more than 20 employees to support it; created a 3.5 million person Facebook page; became one of the most popular conservative columnists in America; was published everywhere from National Review to Human Events, to Townhall, to PJ Media, to the Daily Wire, to The Hill; wrote a book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know that was at one point top 50 in the self-help section on Amazon; did hundreds of hours as a guest on radio shows, raised $611,000 in a GoFundMe for Brett Kavanaugh’s family and has been talked about everywhere from The New York Times to Buzzfeed, to the Washington Post, to Yahoo News, to the Rush Limbaugh Show, to USA Today. After seeing the unjust way that Brett Kavanaugh was treated during his hearings and how a lifetime worth of good work was put at risk by unprovable allegations, John Hawkins decided to create a men’s website. Welcome to Brass Pills!


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