An awful lot of people end up with some variation of this story in their lives. The relationship could be a brother, but it could just as easily be a sister, a friend or even a parent. Eventually, the decision you face is always the same…
I (F26) feel terrible for cutting off all contact with my younger brother (M25) and letting him stay homeless. from relationships
In your life, you are going to run into people who perpetually create the same problems in their lives. Whether it’s because of drugs, alcohol, mental issues, bad morals, entitlement, stubbornness — SOMETHING — they keep having the same issues over and over again. You can help them out, sympathize, give them advice, go above and beyond and it does no good because they keep repeating the same patterns that got them into trouble in the first place. Eventually, if you aren’t careful, they can take so much energy, time, attention or money that it starts to negatively impact your life. At some point, you start to wonder if you are actually ENABLING this bad behavior because you are constantly rubbing salve on the same wounds they keep making in their lives.