How You Start a Conversation With a Woman

Know what the biggest question people tend to have about conversations is? How to get them started in the first place. This is why some guys get so obsessed with pick-up lines. They want a magic way to get the conversation off on the right foot.

What they’re missing is that it doesn’t really matter how you start off the conversation as long as you don’t royally screw it up. When you first meet another human being and they don’t know you, they are judging you based on your body language, confidence, how you look, how you’re dressed, the energy you’re putting off and your attitude. In other words, it’s mostly intangibles that cut down to the core of who you are as a person, not the things coming out of your mouth.

How irrelevant is what you say? Well, I remember reading about a pick-up artist way back in the day who made his students walk up to women and begin the conversation by saying something like, “I’m Marvin the Martian.” Why? Because it got them over the idea that they had to start things off with something smooth — and guess what? If everything else was on point, it DIDN’T MATTER.

Now me? I’ve never started with something that outrageous, but just to name a few things I’ve introduced myself to women with…

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— I’m John Hawkins. Have I met you before?

— You seem pretty cool. We’re going to dinner. Come with us.

— I think I know you from somewhere. Are you famous? (She wasn’t, but I genuinely thought she might be at the time.)

— I’m John Hawkins. Who are you?

— Do I know you from Facebook?

Incidentally, I don’t think all of those are particularly sharp openers, but about 95% of the time, I get a positive reaction. If I don’t get a positive reaction — and usually, I can tell that because her energy level is low and not by anything she says — I just move on. It’s okay because not everybody likes everybody else. That’s life.

So, don’t worry about how to open a conversation with a woman. Just walk up and do it. Whether you start with “Hello” or “I’m Marvin the Martian,” you’re going to be just fine if you are doing everything else right.

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John Hawkins created in 2001; built it up to a top 10,000 in the world website; created a corporation with more than 20 employees to support it; created a 3.5 million person Facebook page; became one of the most popular conservative columnists in America; was published everywhere from National Review to Human Events, to Townhall, to PJ Media, to the Daily Wire, to The Hill; wrote a book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know that was at one point top 50 in the self-help section on Amazon; did hundreds of hours as a guest on radio shows, raised $611,000 in a GoFundMe for Brett Kavanaugh’s family and has been talked about everywhere from The New York Times to Buzzfeed, to the Washington Post, to Yahoo News, to the Rush Limbaugh Show, to USA Today. After seeing the unjust way that Brett Kavanaugh was treated during his hearings and how a lifetime worth of good work was put at risk by unprovable allegations, John Hawkins decided to create a men’s website. Welcome to Brass Pills!


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