Most guys go through this at some point and it’s miserable:
How do I (24M) stop thinking about my ex GF after 2 years?
It’s been two years and I still think about my ex too often. Some days I don’t think of her but a lot of other days I do. Sometimes I get down and think of her and sort of miss her. I haven’t seen her in two years and haven’t talked to her since she needed to get her stuff from my apartment.
Too often I find my self imagining scenarios where I’m with her and how she’d react to things going on and conversations we have and whatnot. I think this is an unhealthy habit and is causing me problems. I need advice on how to stop doing this.
The weird thing is I’d never go back to her. I’m actually really confident on that. She didn’t treat me great and some of her behaviors were very toxic to me. So this is why I’m so confused as to why I can’t get her out of my head. I would never go back to her, so I don’t understand why I feel this way.
TLDR: I need help to stop thinking of my ex gf after two years of no contact.
Been there, done that and I can give you some suggestions.
Get rid of her phone number, delete any pictures you look at, try to forget them.
Your brain is drawn to negative emotional intensity. So, willfully focus on being grateful for what you had, not sad for what you lost. Ratchet that intensity down and you will stop thinking about it as much.
When your brain goes back to your ex, stop your thought process, focus on the fact that you were grateful for the time you had with her and, force your brain to move on.
A single one-hour session of something like tapping can do a lot to get that negative energy out of your body. It sounds woo-woo, but it’s a real therapy and it works for this kind of thing.
Go get another girl. Start dating someone else who gets you revved up and the old girlfriend will recede in your mind.
Follow these steps and it won’t happen instantly, but it will happen.