His Girlfriend Wants To Go On A Week-Long Trip W/ Her Male ‘Best Friend.’ What Should He Do?

This question on Reddit actually came from the girlfriend.

WIBTA if I (25 f) go on a trip with my male best friend (25m) even though my boyfriend (25 m) doesn’t want me to? from r/AmItheAsshole

Three things.

Trending: The Latest Fake Kavanaugh Accusation Doesn’t Even Make Any Sense

1) It’s not impossible for men and women to be close friends, BUT — and this is a huge but — it’s extremely difficult because eventually, one or both of those people is going to end up in a relationship. Once they’re in that relationship, their significant other is not going to be particularly comfortable with them being emotionally close to what they view as a potential competitor. This is just human nature and it’s not irrational.

2) If you were coming up with the negatives of being in a relationship, the first thing on the list would be the constraints that come along with it. When you are in a relationship, you can’t just do whatever you want (say, going to Amsterdam with a male friend) because there is another person involved and he very reasonably, may not like it. If you want to do whatever you want all the time, stay single.

3) Last but not least, if she were really into this guy she’s been with for three years, she wouldn’t even be considering going on this trip. She knows how it looks to go spend a week getting high with some other guy. She knows this has the potential to cause major problems with or end her relationship. So, if she does it anyway, what does it tell you about the value she puts on this relationship she’s been in for three years? It tells you that she doesn’t much care whether it survives or not. If I were a guy in that situation, I would draw the obvious conclusion, “She doesn’t care that much,” and I would think really hard about moving on rather than wasting any more time with someone who’s apparently just not that into me.

Previous articlePoll: A Shocking Percentage of Millennials Say They Have No Friends at All
Next articlePlanet Hawkins #17: Talking Fake Rape Charges Against Men at College With Ashe Schow
John Hawkins
John Hawkins created Rightwingnews.com in 2001; built it up to a top 10,000 in the world website; created a corporation with more than 20 employees to support it; created a 3.5 million person Facebook page; became one of the most popular conservative columnists in America; was published everywhere from National Review to Human Events, to Townhall, to PJ Media, to the Daily Wire, to The Hill; wrote a book 101 Things All Young Adults Should Know that was at one point top 50 in the self-help section on Amazon; did hundreds of hours as a guest on radio shows, raised $611,000 in a GoFundMe for Brett Kavanaugh’s family and has been talked about everywhere from The New York Times to Buzzfeed, to the Washington Post, to Yahoo News, to the Rush Limbaugh Show, to USA Today. After seeing the unjust way that Brett Kavanaugh was treated during his hearings and how a lifetime worth of good work was put at risk by unprovable allegations, John Hawkins decided to create a men’s website. Welcome to Brass Pills!

 

Join the conversation!

We have no tolerance for comments containing violence, racism, profanity, vulgarity, doxing, or discourteous behavior. If a comment is spam, instead of replying to it please hover over that comment, click the ∨ icon, and mark it as spam. Thank you for partnering with us to maintain fruitful conversation.