From a Facebook group I regularly peruse,
Gentlemen I have an issue i would like to share and possibly get some guidance on..
I have been with the love of my life for 6 years now.. recently in the last 3 months she has taken to God a lot and wants to live right by God and Jesus, I was raised with no religion at all, but on my own and with my fiancees help I have been taking steps to learn and accept God into my life.. my issue is that she says she is done having pre marital sex. While I support her thru everything I possibly can this just seems like a lot to spring on me 6 yrs in..
In this case, there’s an easy answer. He has been dating her for 6 years. It’s time to pull the trigger on marriage or have that difficult conversation about how she’s an amazing person, but they’re just not right for each other.
On the other hand, if they hadn’t been going out for such a long period of time, there are a lot of other factors that would come into play. Is this a woman you can see yourself marrying? If the answer is “no,” it’s probably time to say “next.” Even if this is a woman you can see yourself marrying and you believe these are heartfelt religious views, not some excuse not to sleep with you, some people would give you a pat answer, “Just dump her.”
It would be difficult to definitively say whether you should hang in there without sex until marriage, but I can tell you that switching from sexually active to chaste is definitely not going to be a picnic and you need to factor that into your thinking. Although I hate to say it, unless you have some strong feelings for a woman in that situation, the urge to eject from the relationship under those circumstances is probably going to be strong.