Normally in cases like this, it’s the husband trying to figure out how to save his marriage even though his wife won’t have sex with him. This one is… different. Not in a good way or anything, just different.
What a complete disaster. My husband (of 11 years) had an affair…when it was happening, our relationship was not going well (for a variety of reasons and circumstances). Anyway, I became suspicious of this woman and he lied to me. He lied to me so well that I believed him and let it go. Guilt got the better of him and he ended the affair, and I found out completely by accident.
I know a lot of people will say I’m an idiot for staying, but after a lot of thought I decided to stay. I truly do love him. And for him, he swears that he will never again do something like this….he swears he will never put me through something like this again (nor does he himself wish to live through something like that again).
Problem: since I found out, I cannot have sex with him. I tried one time and I had basically a panic attack so he stopped. Other than that one time and occasional blow jobs, we haven’t been sexual in 14 months.