After seeing all the red flags in here, you almost have to go, “yeah, of course, she did…”
Red flag #1: Together for 10 years & engaged for 5 years. If you are 32 and have been with the same woman since she was 22 without getting married, something has gone horribly wrong.
Red Flag #2: I’ve been “trying to get us to get us help for years.” So, it’s a long, unhappy relationship.