Does the Modern Sexual Marketplace Damage Women?

Normally, we talk about men’s issues, but I thought this was an interesting question:

I think we too often spend our time talking about n-count and whether or not it damages women. However, the stronger position is that these women are jaded and damaged in whatever way because of the SMP, not sex itself. Being lied to for sex, cheated on, abused of some kind, all things correlated to having a high n, are what damages women for future relationships and makes them less than ideal partners.

On top of that, we have the entirety of online dating. I think we spend too much time stressing the disadvantages men have in online dating, but honestly, the single women in my life complain about it the most. Delete, re-download, then delete again ad infinitum. Despite their plethora of options, they abhor OLD more than they express any sense of enthusiasm for it. While it may appear analogous to a wealthy man expressing frustration on being unable to decide on the location on a second home, it’s still a valid concern.

From my observations the women who are the damaged ones we often speak about have been worn down by the dating market, not necessarily sex itself. It just happens to be correlated with n count.

To what extent, if at all, are women damaged by the modern SMP?

Without question, the sexual marketplace today is much tougher for men than for women, but that doesn’t mean it’s all sunshine and roses for them either.

To begin with, any even relatively attractive woman will be bombarded with men telling her how beautiful and amazing she is. Her pictures on Facebook will get hundreds of likes, the ones on Instagram will get thousands of likes and if she’s in a big city, she will be flooded with men vying for her attention. To guys who struggle to get the attention of women they’re interested in, this SEEMS like a good thing, but is it?

For one thing, it gives women an inflated sense of their own worth in the sexual marketplace. This is a big part of the reason that women rather famously find 80% of men on dating websites unattractive. If every 6 thinks they’re an 8 and every 8 thinks they’re a 10, only the “best” guys are going to appeal to them. So, if you’re one of the guys at the top of the food chain and you find you can have your pick of attractive women, what are you going to do? You’re going to SAMPLE LIBERALLY. Meanwhile, she’s going to feel a lot of pressure to put out to keep you interested. People assume men lie in situations like this and some of them do, but the reality is that if a woman sleeps with a man after they’ve known each other for 2-3 weeks, he may genuinely not even know if she’s someone he could see himself with longterm at that point. Of course, he’ll still sleep with her. So, what happens to her? She can easily get pumped and dumped a lot. She can get hurt. She can feel like she’s been lied to and used again and again. Also, the more men a woman sleeps with, the less likely she is to stay committed if she does get married. Why would that be? Well, the stigma of divorce is all but gone, the rules are slanted in favor of women and women who’ve been in this position know they ALWAYS have options. How could they feel any other way after getting 2000 likes, 83 “you’re so beautiful” comments and 5 d*ck pics every time they put up a picture in a hot outfit on Instagram?

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