I saw this post on Reddit and honestly, I felt bad for this kid.
How do I become someone I can be proud of?
I HATE EVERYTHING ABOUT MYSELF. I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FIX IT. I HATE HOW MY FACE LOOKS, I HATE MY INTERESTS, I HATE THE FACT THAT I’M ME. I DON’T WANT TO BE ME ANYMORE. IT FEELS LIKE I SHOULDN’T EVEN BE F*CKING ALIVE RIGHT NOW?! I HAVE NO F*CKING DIRECTION, NO PASSION FOR ANYTHING. I FEEL LIKE I’M A WASTE. WHY AM I LIKE THIS? WHY CAN’T I BE F*CKING NORMAL?!
There have been whole books written on this topic and I could easily rip off 1000 words on it, but I want to do something simpler and cleaner. Unfortunately, “simpler” doesn’t necessarily mean easy. Becoming someone you can be proud of will take some work, starting with #1.
1) You need to spend a few hours trying to figure out what you want. Take a day, preferably when you are off work, get some food you like and set aside a few hours to figure out what you REALLY want out of life. Articles like this one can help you with that a lot. Write down even the ridiculous ideas. Brainstorm. Think about not just what excites you, but more importantly, WHY it excites you. Think about this in broad terms. What do you want out of your friends? What kind of woman do you want to date? Monetarily, physically, spiritually and career-wise, where do you want to be? What type of person do you want to become? Get to know yourself and not what your parents, teachers or society tells you that you should want, but what you REALLY want. Because once you’ve done that, you’ll start to find your purpose, your passion and you will have some things that make you want to get out of bed in the morning.
2) Figure out how to get what you want: The hardest step towards any dream is always the first one. So, make it small and doable. Figure out what steps you need to take to get to your goals, choose the almost painfully easy ones and start looking for ways to stack them week by week. Want to get in shape? Join a gym. Want to save money? Start setting aside a certain amount you receive from every check. Want to learn to talk to women? Start having a friendly conversation with older, unattractive women you run into in the supermarket or the women checking you out in Home Depot. Start small, be really consistent, keep stacking good habits and as you succeed, you will come up with new things to try. As long as you are making progress, you will feel good about it.
3) Motivation: As Zig Ziglar said, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.” Read books and articles on what you want to do. Look for opportunities to meet other people that like to do it. Watch documentaries. Make a dream board featuring the things you want to do. Watch videos from motivational speakers like David Goggins & Jim Rohn. Keep lifting yourself up, feeding your mind and working on becoming the best version of yourself. The more success you have, the easier getting motivated will become for you.
Do you want to become someone you’re proud of? That’s all you have to do. It’s not easy but it is simple. If you’re not happy with who you are, what do you have to lose by starting on it today?