I find this case out of Florida to be extremely interesting in that “What if the roles were reversed?” kind of way. Essentially, the woman got pregnant and the man, a Lee County Sheriff in this case, very adamantly insisted on an abortion.
She is refusing to have an abortion, publicly making a big deal about it, doesn’t want the court to give him any access to the child and she wants him to pay support.
The fact that she’s made this so public is reprehensible and her attempt to get the court to deny the father access to the child at this early date seems a little bizarre. Of course, I don’t know either of these people, but given how this is playing out, you have to think he broke the old “Don’t stick your d*ck in crazy” rule.
We can’t take for granted that this is all 100% accurate since we don’t have the man’s side of it, but let’s assume it’s true and put the shoe on the other foot.
What if the two of them got pregnant and SHE insisted on an abortion? The man would have no right to stop her. Why should that be the case? Don’t we hear “It takes two” to make a child? Oh, but that’s only when it comes to PAYING for the child, right?
But, when a man wants to say, “It takes two; so she shouldn’t be able to have an abortion without my consent,” he’s told, “Her body, her choice.” Except it’s not just her body. She has a child in her womb that she didn’t create by herself. At that point there are THREE PEOPLE involved — the woman, the man and the child.
I think that as a just and caring society, we should respect the child’s right to life, but that’s not the direction we’ve chosen to go in. Still, even if we’re not going to give the child the rights he deserves, why shouldn’t the dad have a say? What could be more unjust than for a woman to be allowed to kill a man’s child when he wants his baby?
Even if the man does support an abortion, why should he just be able to pass all that responsibility off to the woman? At least let him sign the documents. Let him be involved in the process. Let him have to face the fact that he’s ending the life of his own progeny.
If you want a suggestion for how this would legally work, it’s pretty simple. When a woman wants an abortion, she would need to present a DNA test and legally signed document from the father okaying the abortion. If he does, the abortion would go through. If he doesn’t, the baby would live and both of them would be responsible. Is that too tough? Saying that the woman could have to be responsible for a child she doesn’t want just like a guy? Well then, what if the man had to sign something saying he’d be willing to take sole responsibility for the child? He should at least have the right to do that, shouldn’t he?
Whether you support abortion or not, you should respect the rights of the father enough to give him a say in the whole process.